Did you hear the news, Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan have decided to split up after 9 years!!! My most fav couple in Hollywood are calling it quits. That is just so sad to me. And they were together for 9 years. I mean, that’s already a long ass time to be together and then to just call it quits, yikes! Makes you wonder….
” The state of being united with a person of the opposite sex as husband and wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.” Well we know now that the definition of marriage needs to be changed just a little bit, Now we have same sex marriages so I would think that they should get on it and change it in the dictionary! But my point to this is, when reading this definition, it makes it sound so.. political doesn’t it? But do people these days really take ” marriage” as a serious thing? Now a days, people are just popping the question and heading to the court house with people that they just met 6 months ago, now don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of marriages that have lasted well into the decades with couples that get married after such a short time, but I’m referring to the ones that just do it because they think it’s going to be fun, or whatever and in turn find out that it’s not everything that they thought it would be, then next thing you know, 2 years after a marriage, they are splitting up.
Being married is the hardest relationship to be in. It requires lots of compassion, fairness, love, compromise. Your significant other has to want to work at it just like they would want you to work on it. When one or the other isnt on the same page as the other, that’s when things start to tilt in the relationship and either you figure it out together and work at it, or you split. Most people today just split. Everyone is just to darn busy to want to work on a marriage anymore. Full time jobs, full time parents, keeping the house clean and up to par, making sure there’s food in the fridge, etc.
I am no expert by any means in this subject, but I am married and we have had our times of being very rocky. Kids, money, house, LIFE. The hardest stuff you could think of, we have been there, the lowest that we have ever been, we have been there, not knowing when things are going to even look up, we have been there, and each time that these things happen, we are there, together, trying to make things just a little bit better for us all. We have kids, we cant be selfish because it’s not about us anymore. We cannot just let our love die because we are too tired from daily life problems to want to work on it. My biggest thing, I hate going to bed mad! It’s the worst ever! But AJ, no problem. lol. And I’m thinking it’s not just him, it’s more of a guy thing, because men can just push their feelings aside and go on about the day, but us, women, we cannot. Our brains will speed at about 150 mph daily about every little thing that is going on, and what needs to happen, and how are we going to get this done, and when are we going to have time to do that? We need to find our balance.
I do not want my children to grow up in a house where both parents live in different places. And I don’t know if me having both my parents at home helps that? But, divorce has never been something that is going to happen. I mean, I will try my damnest to make everything work possible, and I know after everything is all said and done, and nothing else can really help or work, then that’s where the end of the road lies. I’m not trying to say that the people I know who have either separated or divorced just did it because they didn’t want to work at it, I’m just stating my opinion and how I see my life, and what I would do if it ever got to that point.
Life is just too short to have to worry about those little things, when really we should be living our lives to the fullest and enjoying every moment that we have with the loved ones who are still with us. Cherish it. Embrace it. Love it.